A Post About Loss

Sunday, January 06, 2019

For the last maybe 10 years, Mr C's father had Dementia with Lewy bodies

It is the most heartbreaking illness
Norman and new-born Liora
Norman Cheerin passed away on December 2, 2018. He was 75.

I wanted to write a little post to acknowledge his life and the loss his family is feeling.

To be perfectly honest, this was originally supposed to be part of my Taking Stock post which reviewed 2018. I wanted to mention his passing briefly so as to not cause more pain to those who knew him and might read it but it was impossible. 

The more I wrote, the more I realised there was no way I could just mention it and move on, also, how do you transition from such sad news to anything else. So I decided it was best to have a dedicated post to him.  

I only met Norman in 2002 but was instantly drawn to his wit and to his manner. His relationship with his son was amazing to me, who had a challenging one with my own dad.

He was a hilarious, kind and gentle man, adored by his wife of 50 years and loved and respected by his children. He loved woodwork, music and photography. He loved reading and knowledge and was just basically one of the good ones. He showed my Mr C how to be a husband and father, and did an incredible job. 

It has been very tough on Mr C. He was very close to his father and despite watching the decline, he was not prepared for the outcome. He is suffering and I wish I could reach his heart and make it better, but at the same time, his pain is a testament to the man his father was.

Most people dread their in-laws. I do not. I love them. I am one of the lucky ones. I hope that I am able to do justice to Norman with this small mention and that his family will find the space and time to heal and remember with fondness this man they were so lucky to have grown with.

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